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Imbalance, Burnout & Change: 2011 Year in Review

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There are two kinds of end of the year/New Year blog posts to write. The first is a reflection of the previous year – everything you did, everything you didn’t, what you’re proud of, and what you’re not. And the second is a laundry list of “do’s” and “don’ts” for how to make the next year rock much harder than the last.

And then there’s a third, which doesn’t reveal anything about the writer but gives you, the reader, a map of how you can stick to your resolutions for the first time ever.

Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work Out

New Year’s Resolutions are like plans – you write them for how you’re feeling (usually fat) at that time (post-holidays) for the future (that has yet to be written) – and they never work out. They look great on paper, but horrible in execution because they all lack one thing – foresight and the understanding that you have to sacrifice something to accomplish what you need (and the ability to adjust to continue the momentum).

Instead of resolutions or plans, I make goals. I did this unknowingly as I entered 2010 and consciously as I entered 2011. I met the three goals I set in 2010 but not all of the goals I set for myself in 2011. While all of this past year’s goals looked great in December 2010, by mid-2011, an imbalance between work and life happened and parts of those goals were prioritized while others were not. Plus I set too many goals.

I don’t feel like 2011 was a failure, but just plain weird. In the Christmas letter John and I sent to our family, I summarized the year as one of “change,” and by God, if that isn’t true.

2011 started with a lot of oomph, passion, and excitement as things were set in place that I had been working hard towards achieving in the previous year and a half. But I got burnt out early, outgrew that opportunity faster than I imagined, and a new opportunity revealed itself and I jumped on it. If 2011 was a shape it would look like a giant “U” with a big, deep dip in the middle.

A New Template for Plotting World Domination in 2012

Earlier this week, my husband and I spent the evening working through Benny Hsu of Get Busy Living’s 2011 Year in Review Worksheet. What I like about his template is it focuses on how the previous year ended so you can reflect on what you’re proud of, what you accomplished, what you learned, what didn’t work, and where you’d like to see yourself in the future.

Benny’s worksheet helps you see where you want to go by reviewing where you came. It’s similar to racing a car – they say that you should look at where you want the car to go, not at the wall that you don’t want to run into.

Goals, plans, and strategies are the same way – look at where you want to go, not where you don’t want to go.

2011 was the U-shaped Year of Imbalance, Burnout & Change

And because I am who I am, there are many times where I bent the template and added a few extra items.

10 greatest things that happened in the past year:

  1. Getting a new job (Jolkona) and off unemployment
  2. Attending SXSW
  3. Investing in my blog, especially during November
  4. Quitting my job, getting a new one (Scrappy Face)
  5. Finding a treatment that worked on my shoulder (I’ve been trying to rehab bursitis and tendonitis in my right shoulder since injuring it in July 2010)
  6. Vacation to Iowa to visit extended family and anniversary trip to Victoria, B.C.
  7. Publishing my first article on Mashable
  8. Big, awesome, amazing year for networking
  9. Building an incredible, strong team while at Jolkona (and kicked ass at that job)
  10. Date night with John every Friday night
  11. Seeing how happy my husband is since he started drawing again 

I am most proud of these three accomplishments last year:

  1. My writing and my blog
  2. Getting recruited out of my last job to join my current one
  3. Making a name for myself
  4. Reluctant patience with my shoulder (it’s really hard to treat an injury when you don’t know what really went wrong…)

Three great lessons I learned from last year are:

Listen to my gut, because:

  1. If something is wrong, change it – don’t wait for it to fix itself; it won’t
  2. Do what’s best for me and my family
  3. If I can’t make it through a CrossFit workout due to lack of focus, than something is probably wrong outside of CrossFit.

Three personal developments I have made in the past year are:

  1. Knowing that I’m really a writer
  2. Trusting that my background, experience, and skills are valuable
  3. Learning how to manage people and a team

If I could do things again last year, I would do these three things differently:

  1. Quit my previous job sooner
  2. Prioritize my writing earlier in the year (and continuously throughout the year)
  3. Be more aggressive about finding the right treatment for my shoulder

Three things I need to do less of next year are:

  1. Making excuses for what I really want (or don’t want) to do
  2. Saying “yes”
  3. Committing, volunteering, and helping out with too many projects that aren’t my own

Three things I need to do more of in the next year are:

  1. Get a full night’s sleep
  2. Write!
  3. Go to CrossFit
  4. See my friends and family

Three things I need to stop doing completely next year are:

  1. Making excuses
  2. Volunteering for projects that aren’t my own
  3. Under-valuing myself

Three reasons I didn’t achieve my goals in the past year are:

  1. I set too many goals
  2. Life happened, priorities changed
  3. I didn’t have as much control over my schedule as I thought I did due to work and not setting boundaries

Three goals I want to achieve next year are:

  1. I want my blog (or my writing) to be a destination
  2. I want to have a national speaking engagement
  3. I want to lead the Scrappy Face movement
  4. I want to be able to do a strict pull-up

Three reasons why I want to achieve these goals are:

  1. I’ve been writing since I was 8 and I’m damn good at it
  2. I want to achieve these goals and I know I can 🙂
  3. I’ve been wanting to lead a movement since winter of 2009, before I worked in social media
  4. It’s time to be strong again

Smartest decision I made last year:

I quit my last job.

Biggest risk I took last year:

I accepted a new job and a new startup.

One sentence that sums up this past year:

2011 was harder than it should have been.

One year from right now, I want my ideal day to look like this:

Wake up with John and have a home-cooked breakfast (meaning not eating on the bus or on-the-go). Head to the park and ride and take the bus downtown. The first half of my day will be dedicated to writing, blogging, working on the movement or other marketing projects for the Scrappy Face brand. I will never eat alone. Afternoon will be dedicated to client work. After work, I’ll head to CrossFit then head home to have dinner with John at the table and not in front of the TV. After dinner I’ll write for an hour or two before heading to bed.

The weekends will be mine. I will not work on the weekends but play. Sundays I’ll write.

2012 is the Year of Kicking Ass, Writing & Building Strength

And there you have it, my year in review. That last question was so hard for me to write because it asked me to look so far into the future (a year, I know!) and imagine what might be. Up until that question, this template was my best friend.

2011 had a few themes: work, burnout, and battling an injury. 2012 will have three themes as well: kicking ass at my current job (I am helping build this company and studying for how I will build my own), writing, and getting stronger at CrossFit.

That’s it.

There will be awesome details that will create an amazing rollercoaster across the year, but those three things are what I’m focusing on: my work, my passion, and my body.

That’s it.

Hey, 2012, I’m ready to kick ass with you.

Two questions for you:

  1. Fill out Get Busy Living’s Year In Review template. Did it reveal anything to you?
  2. If you didn’t, what’s one goal that you’re planning to achieve in 2012? What are you planning to make happen?

Thank you, Benny Hsu, for this awesome worksheet, and Alexander the Great for introducing me to it.

Photo Credit: ayeshamus


11 Responses

  1. Lamiki — 

    #1 That’s awesome that you’re in a new job scene. I think I probably already said congrats, but it’s really really really really really sweet when someone moves into a new job that they (hopefully) like more, or at least feel autonomous.

    For some reason I feel like jobs that suck really sap everything out of life. It’s only 8 hours but those bad vibes stuck around all week for some reason.

    So, congrats on that haha.

    #2 “2011 was harder than it should’ve been” That’s a curious one, care to explain a lil more?  You mean beyond just the human procrastinating and putting square pegs in round holes?

    #3 Hit me up with what’s going on with your shoulder — I used to have shoulder issues (bench press related) and now they are 90% healed from a couple texts I’ve been studying.  

    Ciao ciao here’s to a legendary 2012

    1. #1 Thank you! I can’t remember if you said Congrats or not, but I appreciate it 🙂

      #2 Meaning that there was a lot that happened “under the radar” while I was working towards the spikes and valleys of good news that centered around this past year. I also wasn’t expecting or planning to get burnt out from my last job as quickly as I did (though, does anyone ever plan burn out?). That’s what I mean 🙂

      #3 Oy, long story. In July 2010 between pull-up 1 and 100 during a workout called “Angie” (http://lamiki.com/2010/12/my-unfinished-business-with-angie/) I jerked my arm coming down from a pull-up and 24-hours later my right arm was swollen like Popeye, but not in a good way. I saw doctors and physical therapists but because I still had mobility, they didn’t give any answers other than “rest and see.”

      In March 2011 two things happened: 1) After carrying my laptop bag around on my left shoulder for 5-days straight during SXSW, I came home, finally relaxed, and my right shoulder hurt in a new place and worst than before. When I emailed my doctor about it (a specialist), his response was not to have me come in and check it out, but to “rest” and not do any exercise or PT. Then, 2) I was holding my friend’s newborn who was barely 7 pounds, again, in my good arm, and my right arm hurt. While I was resting and not lifting anything overhead, not being able to hold a 7-pound child is not the kind of life I want to live.

      Since then, a friend recommended acupuncture which helped break up the scar tissue plus my doctor understood what CrossFit is and the kind of physical life I want to lead (finally), because not doing CrossFit or lifting will not work. Over the summer I found a new chiropractor who started to do cold laser treatment on my shoulder. That, mixed with PT exercises and acupuncture has essentially “cured” my shoulder and I’m able to start lifting overhead again and learn how to do things I once kicked ass at — like pull-ups and overhead squats.

      They still don’t know what really “happened” when I injured myself in July of 2010, but the general diagnosis is bursitis and tendonitis in my right shoulder. It sucks.

      The best advice with any injury is to keep trying treatment methods until something works. Be patient while the body heals. And if your doctor isn’t listening to you, find a new one.

      What’s up with your shoulder?

      Thank you for the vote of confidence 🙂 Here’s to an awesome 2012!!

  2. This is a great way to approach goals for the year. I answered the questions for myself as I read your post. Thanks for sharing the process!

    I kept it simple this year with 5 goals I want to achieve for myself – http://anotherjennifer.com/?p=3218. Good luck to you this year. It sounds like you have big plans. Looking forward to reading about them!

  3. I enjoyed learning more about you! I’m glad Alex brought you to my blog, because then it allowed me to come to yours. First I love the pic of you in your banner. It rocks! 

    I agree that too many goals is bad. If we try to go for too many, we spread ourselves thin. 

    Agree on more Crossfit. I’ve done it for a couple months, but I’m one of the slower ones in the class. I have lots of areas i want to improve on, but I know it’ll take time. 

    Good luck on reaching your goals! They all sound very realistic. 🙂

  4. I enjoyed learning more about you! I’m glad Alex brought you to my blog, because then it allowed me to come to yours. First I love the pic of you in your banner. It rocks! 

    I agree that too many goals is bad. If we try to go for too many, we spread ourselves thin. 

    Agree on more Crossfit. I’ve done it for a couple months, but I’m one of the slower ones in the class. I have lots of areas i want to improve on, but I know it’ll take time. 

    Good luck on reaching your goals! They all sound very realistic. 🙂

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