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Imbalance, Burnout & Change: 2011 Year in Review

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There are two kinds of end of the year/New Year blog posts to write. The first is a reflection of the previous year – everything you did, everything you didn’t, what you’re proud of, and what you’re not. And the second is a laundry list of “do’s” and “don’ts” for how to make the next year rock much harder than the last.

And then there’s a third, which doesn’t reveal anything about the writer but gives you, the reader, a map of how you can stick to your resolutions for the first time ever.

Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work Out

New Year’s Resolutions are like plans – you write them for how you’re feeling (usually fat) at that time (post-holidays) for the future (that has yet to be written) – and they never work out. They look great on paper, but horrible in execution because they all lack one thing – foresight and the understanding that you have to sacrifice something to accomplish what you need (and the ability to adjust to continue the momentum).

Instead of resolutions or plans, I make goals. I did this unknowingly as I entered 2010 and consciously as I entered 2011. I met the three goals I set in 2010 but not all of the goals I set for myself in 2011. While all of this past year’s goals looked great in December 2010, by mid-2011, an imbalance between work and life happened and parts of those goals were prioritized while others were not. Plus I set too many goals.

I don’t feel like 2011 was a failure, but just plain weird. In the Christmas letter John and I sent to our family, I summarized the year as one of “change,” and by God, if that isn’t true.

2011 started with a lot of oomph, passion, and excitement as things were set in place that I had been working hard towards achieving in the previous year and a half. But I got burnt out early, outgrew that opportunity faster than I imagined, and a new opportunity revealed itself and I jumped on it. If 2011 was a shape it would look like a giant “U” with a big, deep dip in the middle.

A New Template for Plotting World Domination in 2012

Earlier this week, my husband and I spent the evening working through Benny Hsu of Get Busy Living’s 2011 Year in Review Worksheet. What I like about his template is it focuses on how the previous year ended so you can reflect on what you’re proud of, what you accomplished, what you learned, what didn’t work, and where you’d like to see yourself in the future.

Benny’s worksheet helps you see where you want to go by reviewing where you came. It’s similar to racing a car – they say that you should look at where you want the car to go, not at the wall that you don’t want to run into.

Goals, plans, and strategies are the same way – look at where you want to go, not where you don’t want to go. (more…)

New Year’s Resolutions are a Load of Crap

We claim that January is the time to celebrate the New Year and the new you.

Got 10 pounds of Christmas cookies you need to shed? No enrollment fee on gym membership.

Got a relationship that’s holding you back? Enroll in our seminar and we’ll teach you how to walk away.

New Year’s resolutions are a load of crap. They are goals that we should have been striving towards since the little bug in our ear said something was not right in our lives. January 1st is just another day. The calendar flips and nothing in our life is different except we need to start writing “2011” instead of “2010.”

And yet, the New Year gives us a reason to light a fire under our ass and do what we have wanted to do all along.

New Year’s resolutions are good for something – they allow us to wipe the slate clean and start over. And if all we need is a cleansing of the psyche, why fight it?

2011: Bring it.

2010 was an interesting year in my life, and a year that actually started by a pretty big event that happened on September 30, 2009, and lasted until just a few weeks ago. And at midnight on Friday when I give and receive my New Year’s kiss, for the first time ever, I am looking forward to everything that I plan to achieve in 2011.

I haven’t made resolutions, per say, but goals. In 2009 as part of a job application, I was asked to submit 5 goals (3 short-term and 2 long-term), plus a list of my ideal work environment down to the essential functions of the position. That document actually served as the framework for my entire job hunt throughout 2010. And I’m happy to say that I achieved my 3 short-term goals mid-way through the year.

To prepare for 2011, I sat down with a good friend and outlined a number of achievable goals that support the major areas of my life—from health and CrossFit to writing and investing in this blog, plus how to maintain my personal sanity, reach professional goals, and even travel. I also added a few self-less good deeds that will help me prioritize relationships I want to improve on this year. Under each category are 3-to-10 actionable items that I will do daily, weekly, monthly, or quarterly and track.

These goals are preceded by 9 ideas to keep me centered and focused throughout the year. They’re very personal and aren’t easy to track. But they are behaviors and ways of thinking that I want to incorporate into my life, slowly.

My friend is doing the same thing of writing out goals for 2011 that he can track. Our plan is to meet up regularly to see how the other is doing and keep each other accountable.

In all honesty, I’m looking forward to 2011 because I’m ready. I’ve shed some psychological and emotional baggage that was holding me back the past year, I have 2011 mapped out according to my terms, and I have some pretty exciting news to announce come early January.

2011 will be is my year.

So there you have it. New Year, New Me? Not exactly. But New Year, New Ways to Kick Ass? Yes, that’s absolutely true.

Want help planning your New Year’s resolutions and 2011 goals?

Read Scott Berkun’s post, New Years Resolutions that Work. It’s the best how-to I’ve found as it outlines, step-by-step, how you can write a resolution and follow it.

I’m actually following a number of tactics on Scott’s “Divide and Conquer” list, and probably the reason why it’ll work.

What are you looking forward to the most in 2011?

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